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Comments about the Opposite Sex Homework

Comments by Women

HOMEWORK INSTRUCTIONS Due date: Next class session. WORTH 10 POINTS

This is a writing assignment. Please do not write your name on your paper; instead, put the last 4 digits of your student ID # at the top of the page. Use a word processing software program (such as MS Word) to write your paper.

You comments will remain confidential -- I will not match your paper with your name.

Your paper should be between about 2 to 5 pages long. It will not be graded -- you will get full credit as long as you take this exercise seriously.

Print a copy of your paper, and give it to me at the next class session.

Later in the semester, we will review and discuss the comments.

Please write as thoughtfully, clearly, perceptively, and honestly as possible. Your classmates will read your anonymous comments, and some of your comments may be selected for inclusion in a book I am writing. (If, for some reason, you do not want your classmates to read your anonymous comments, or you do not want your anonymous comments included in the book, please write a note indicating this at the top of your paper.)

There are no "right" or "wrong" answers. Simply describe, as honestly as possible, what you feel and think. Again, all of your comments will remain anonymous.

In contemplating the traits of the opposite sex in general, as a group, write one or two paragraphs to answer each of the following questions. You do not need to include the question itself before your response. Also, think about what you actually like or dislike about the opposite sex IN GENERAL, not about the specific characteristics of one or two people you have known.

Also, you are writing about how you think the opposite sex actually is, not how might like them to be. Be honest -- don't try to censor your thoughts or worry whether they are politically correct.

When you are finished with your paper, save and print it. Then you will need to also include your comments about the opposite sex with those of your classmates at our class wiki web site (see: http://drmillslmu.wikispaces.com/,

Log in. Click on our class, Psyc 310, and then click on Homework Assignment 1, women's or men's responses, as appropriate.)

Click the "Edit This Page" button at the top of the page, then click the "Floating Toolbar" button. Then scroll down to each question to paste in your response to that question.


#1. Think about the previous interactions you have had with the opposite sex. Has a situation ever occurred with someone of opposite sex that you found deeply puzzling and/or incomprehensible? And which you also think is somehow a function of that person's gender (not just the specific individual involved)? If so, think about what happened, and the behaviors, cognitions, motivations, or emotions of the opposite sex that you found particularly puzzling. I had been dating this guy for two years and we got into an argument about something that we just could not agree on. We both got pretty heated on the subject and decided we needed time to cool down. In my mind I thought that a day was enough time to cool down and think about the situation rationally. In his mind he thought not talking to me would be a “punishment” and went almost a week without calling me or answering my phone calls. The worst part is that he decided the day before my birthday he would call to see if I wanted to hang out because he was over being angry and wanted to go back to normal as if nothing had happened. While girls are more apt to talking things out guys just wanted to keep it all inside, get over their anger in their own time, and then act as if nothing ever happened. So frustrating!(8095)

When regarding to the opposite sex, much can be said. There are interactions and or situations that occur among us which allow us to built opinions about the opposite sex. In a previous situation with the opposite sex I found myself somewhat puzzled. Not so long ago, I had gotten upset with my fiancée because he didn’t let me know that after work he would be hanging out with some friends. I got worried and upset, so when I approached the situation with him, he told me not to worry. So, last week I started school. Since I am driving to school from the valley, he told me to call him or send him a message whenever I got in the car to leave/return from or to school. I would also do the same when I would arrive home and school. It turned out that I did as I went and arrived to school, but I didn’t when I left school and got home. He was really upset and it took him a while to calm down. This also reminded me of other times when my brothers and parents would get upset at situations similar to the one occurred. It was puzzling to see how upset the opposite sex got, but at the same time it is understandable since they are the ones to have the roles of the “protector”(7754)

When I am with my girlfriends, we love to discuss the future, and most importantly, our wedding days. So I was with a girlfriend and one of my close guy friends, and the subject of our wedding day came up. My girlfriend and I were discussing the decorations, venues, and the perfect wedding dress. My guy friend was rolling his eyes, and he looked really annoyed. He told us that he could not understand why weddings were so important, and why we always talk about them. He was really frustrated and seriously getting mad. I didn’t understand why he was getting so upset. Then I realized that all of my guy friends hate when we talk about weddings. I do not understand what the big deal was. The boys are just not into talking about weddings, and I think that they just do not want to be around such conversations. Which is puzzling, because a wedding a big part of a man’s life too, and it’s weird that the guys are not into it, when so many girls are already. (9661)

A year ago I was required to work on a class project with a guy that I did not previously know before being given the assignment. We met at the library and within a matter of minutes he informed me about his girlfriend and how he was using her laptop. If this was the first time that this happened I would not have been surprised but at work a co-worker just told me that they have been going out to eat more now that they have a new girlfriend. Both of these situations have made me feel like if a guy is in a relationship they want any girl they come across to know that they are off the market, and although I have a boyfriend I do not feel obligated to mention being in a relationship immediately after I meet someone. (1895)

One time I met this guy who had been cheated on and he claimed that he was so strongly against cheating that he would stop talking to anyone he knew was cheating. Ironically not much longer after I heard this I found out his best friend was cheating on his girlfriend and the guy thought it was perfectly acceptable. He even went as far as to say the girlfriend was dumb for not noticing her boyfriend was cheating on her. I find this to be completely puzzling. What is with the double-standard? He was so strongly against cheating when a girl was the unfaithful one, but thought it was perfectly acceptable for men to be unfaithful. (9268)

I find it puzzling when a guy is clearly interested and says he will call you at a certain day or time but fails to follow through. I think the reason men sometimes do this is because they tend to go with the flow more than women, so if something happens to come up it is not as big of a deal to them if they cannot follow through with their original plan. They are also generally not as sensitive as women, so they do not understand that women take this type of behavior to heart and will often feel as if they have done something wrong or worry that guy is no longer interested if this does occur. (3028)

1. The opposite sex can be very puzzling at times but the worst is that sometimes you think you have figured them out and then they do something and you are just left wondering why they would even consider doing that? The latest situation that was deeply confusing to me was when I was kind of hanging out with someone and I thought things were going pretty well and then all of a sudden he just wanted to cut off everything because he was studying abroad the next semester and did not want to get too attached. I was baffled because obviously I did not want to get too attached either but that does not mean that we could not talk or hang out at all. In addition, after witnessing many of my friends’ relationships I do not understand how a person that loves you so much can treat you so badly. A few of my friends’ boyfriends just treated them like dirt and I could not figure out how you can be so cruel to someone you say you love with all your heart. Secondly, I do not understand how my friends could go back to the guy after he has treated her so badly, so with that in mind the opposite sex and my own sex completely confuse me sometimes. I can see how a girl can go back to a guy that has treated her badly especially if she does not know any better, but it is so much easier to see it when it isn’t happening to you because most people try and look at the good in people especially the ones that they love the most. (0640)

!) In my opinion, the opposite sex will always be a mystery. Not only are they hard to understand but can be really puzzling at times. I was dating this guy who I knew really liked me, we acted like a couple, we were exclusive yet he wouldn’t ask me to be his girlfriend. He would tell me how much he liked me and was all into this “relationship.” I was extremely puzzled as to why he would not just ask me out. Commitment must really scare guys when it comes to relationships. He would tell me that he hadn’t been committed in a long time. So then I asked him if he would cheat on me; he said he wouldn’t. I always thought commitment meant to be true and loyal to your partner. I was so confused. Eventually he asked me about a month or two later. (7346)

The last situation I had with the opposite sex was a very confusing situation, which I later found out was because of miscommunication between the two of us. I left the country for five weeks and before I left Mark, my ex-boyfriend, and I had a conversation about where we stood. I expressed to him that I was apprehensive to talk and be friends because I did not want to start to have feelings for him. He said he wanted to talk about our relationship when I returned because we were not going to be able to talk to each other for five weeks and that it would be best to figure everything out when I was in back. When I returned Mark and I did not speak to each other for a couple weeks. He avoided me to his maximum capabilities until one day we came face to face and discovered that us not talking was because of miscommunication. He thought I did not want to be friends because I still had feelings for him and I thought he was brushing me off for no reason. I think that for a guy Mark was scared to hang out because he thought I wanted a relationship when in reality I just was not sure if it would be awkward being friends since we were not friends before our relationship. As a woman, I was mad and confused at why Mark was not talking to me after he said he would discuss everything when I came back. Therefore, while he thought I had feelings for him I thought he was just avoiding me, possibly because he had a new girlfriend. Guys deal with ex-girlfriends with great caution because they do not want to deal with an ex while girls seem to just want to talk about the situation and have closure. My closure was to meet up and talk and his was to just not talk to me and avoid me. (5362)

A situation occurred where my male friends and I were watching a football game television. In the end, the team that they wanted to win ended up losing and they were all very upset about it. The rest of the day they were in bad moods. Although I loved the team, it seemed like a waste of time to get so upset over a game when there were so many other activities that we could have been doing to take ours mind of the loss. I found their reactions the most puzzling. Instead of putting the moment behind them and moving on, they were upset the whole day and allowed it to effect their behavior negatively. (0142)

A few months ago, i was with my guy friends at one of their houses and an hour into the night two of them got into a fight, one ended up with a black eye. Since it had happened before a long time ago, i assumed they would get over it and be fine the next day or soon after, but for some reason they never did. I still dont understand how guys can get into fights with their friends and get over it so quickly usually, but other times let it end a friendship, and what the difference is that leads to one outcome over another. (0098)

#2. In general, what do you like about the opposite sex? What do you dislike? Again, think of the opposite sex in general, as they actually are, not how you might like them to be different. I like that the opposite sex is naturally stronger and taller than females. The fact that they are stronger and taller is convenient when you need help with something you can’t reach or lift. Secondly, it adds to the hot physique of guys. I love that they are very adventurous beings and enjoy doing outdoorsy activities. I hate that guys are so unorganized. You can definitely can walk into any random apartment on campus and be able to tell if girls or boys live there. (8095)

2. To be honest, this is quite a hard question to answer because there are so many answers. But, the things that I like most about men in general is that “safe” feeling because you just feel more secure when you are with a man either in a relationship or just in general because most of the time they are stronger than a woman and could protect you if need be. Most men are quite funny, whether they are trying intentionally or unintentionally which is always refreshing. In addition, there does not seem to be as much drama between guys than there is with girls, they seem to always just want to have a good time which is always nice. Something that I’ve recently begun to appreciate about men is that they’re more likely to be straightforward with you and not take things personally. Basically, guys are just easier to hang out with and just have fun.(0640)

There are characteristics that I like and that I also dislike about the opposite sex. When it comes to the negatives about the opposite sex, I can say that their machismo and the ability of getting away with things are things I dislike. I also dislike the fact that they never want to be wrong and are not willing to admit that they are wrong. Aside from that, I do admire the need they feel they have of being protectors and are outgoing/approachable. (7754)

Qualities that I like in males include that they are protective. Males are also chivalrous, they pay for you, when you are cold they give their jackets, they open doors for you, and for the most part, they are gentleman. Men have a very good sense of humor, I think more so than women. Men are more easy-going, they are not as judgmental as women. Women have a tendency to talk about others behind their back, but men just let things go. Qualities that I do not like in men include cat calls. I hate it when I go out and there are men whistling or yelling. It makes me feel really uncomfortable. Men have a tendency to be very aggressive in their jokes and humor. It is funny, but then it crosses lines and gets out of hand. Men are also too laid back, they seem to take nothing seriously, and then when I talk about something they would make me feel as if I was nagging too much or something. (9661)

I like how guys can be protective with girls and tend to look out for them when in dangerous situations. It is always comforting knowing that when I am hanging out with my boyfriend that he will defend me in a heartbeat if he ever thinks that I am in harms way. At the same time I dislike how guys can tend to bend the truth and not be completely obvious about their feelings and/or situations that they have been in. (1895)

I particularly like that guys are so undramatic in relation to girls. Hanging out with my guy friends is an easy way to relax simply because they don’t care about how much food you eat or what you’re wearing, in fact most of them wouldn’t even notice let alone care. Oftentimes they say what they mean and won’t beat around the bush or play games the way girls do. Their carefree attitudes are so refreshing. On the other hand something that I dislike about guys in general is that they tend to be avoidant of anything serious. Their carefree attitudes can be useful up to a certain point but there also needs to be an ability to converse over the harder topics. (4276)

I like the fact that men are strong, dependable, low maintenance, and care-free. Some things that I dislike about men are that they are stubborn, insensitive at times, jealous, competitive and loose with money. (9268)

What I like about males is that they are generally stronger and braver than females, and are innately protective of women. What I dislike is that males are typically not as thoughtful as females. (3028)

2) What I like about the opposite sex is the sense of protection they give out. Since they are physically stronger for the most part they do make me feel safe. For example, it I was caught in a really dangerous situation with a group of people, I would feel ten times better if there were guys in the group rather than all girls. What I dislike about the opposite sex is that they tend to not be emotional at all. They also tend to be very inconsiderate at times; sometimes I think to myself what could have possibly been going on in their head when they make certain decisions. (7346)

In general, things I like about the opposite sex include their ability to help with things I do not understand, such as assembling parts together. I like how you can feel safe and protected with them when you are out in public. I like to hang out with them because a lot of the time they are more relaxed and never try to cause drama. I like that we can just watch tv or sports and just laugh and have a good time. I like how the majority of males are very easy going and will just go with the flow. If there is a change of plans they do not get upset but rather just do whatever. Another one of my favorite traits about guys is that they do not analyze as much as girls do. Girls will read into every single action a guy does, but a guy just takes it for what it is and does not look further into it. Things I do not like about males is that they tend to not like to talk about their problems. If I have a problem with a boyfriend I want to talk it out while he just wants his space and will get over it over time. I do not like how the opposite sex can be so stubborn. They even will admit they are stubborn but refuse to change. For example, even when they know they are lost they refuse to ask for directions and would rather drive for hours finding the right road to take. (5362)

There are many things that I like about the opposite sex. The first is that they can make a female feel as though she is the center of the universe. The way that they smile and laugh makes a woman feel attractive and boosts her self-esteem. The second is that when a man is a friend of yours, they make you feel safe, especially when they protect you from situations. The same feeling can be felt when you are in a relationship with a man and he holds you. A woman feels secure. The third is that men do not hold grudges against each other for very long. Sometimes woman can be mean and catty, but men shrug off the problem and forgive very easily. One item that I dislike in males is that they want to be physical faster in a relationship or even as an acquaintance. This can be seen especially among college students. The males are more likely to want a casual relationship, possibly a one-night stand, than women do. Another characteristic that I do not like is that males are generally less clean than females. They live in less cleanly conditions than most women feel acceptable. (0142)

In general, I like how men are more decisive in their everyday lives, and how when they make a decision or have a goal in mind, they are assertive about it. I feel like most girls will give up too easily especially if some of their friends disagree with them or want something different for themselves. Men dont compromise as much, and i see that as a strength most girls lack. (0098)

#3. What is the one thing that the opposite sex most misunderstands about your own sex? The biggest misconception is that girls are only interested in shopping and not sports. I hate when guys just assume that you know nothing about football or basketball. They treat you as if materialistic things are the only things we care about and are shocked that we might know a thing or two about rules, players, or coaches.(8095)

3. The one thing that the men most misunderstand about women would probably just be the way that we interact with each other or just the way we communicate with each other. Sometimes guys just do not understand when a girl is being snotty to you, they just do not seem to pick up on these things that seem to be a big deal to us. (0640)

The opposite sex misunderstands a few things about our sex. For instance, the opposite sex misunderstands our feelings and how we express our feelings to “drama’ and portraying us as being dramatic. They misunderstand our sense of caring and worrying to exaggerating.(7754)

I think the thing that males most misunderstand abut females is that women are moody. I beg to differ, I think that in our minds, the things that we go through in a day have an effect on us, and men seem to not understand that maybe we may not be feeling good one moment and the next we just get over it. Men may mistake our demeanor for us being moody and overly emotional, but I they do not take into account what happened before they met. (9661)

I think that the one thing that the opposite sex misunderstands about women is that not all women want to get married right away and settle down and be housewives. Many women are driven to be just as ambitious if not more ambitious than men and sometimes I think that the opposite sex thinks that it is better if they do not get in a relationship because the girl is going to want to tie them down and set a wedding date. (1895)

Guys tend to misunderstand female “neediness”. More often than not women are just looking for the men in their lives to show that they care about their opinions as a person and are looking for ways to be connected to another person by sharing their lives and thoughts with the guy they’re with. What guys think of as mindless chatter is women trying to connect with them through a sharing of thoughts. (4276)

The number one most misunderstood thing about the female sex is that we are high-maintenance and must have expensive gifts to be happy. Men think that unless a gift is a designer brand that costs a fortune the girl will not be satisfied. Women do not need expensive gifts in order to be happy. (9268)

The one thing that males misunderstand the most about females is that we are more sensitive than we show. For example, when we like a guy and he says he will give us a call, we expect the call and become worried and doubtful if we do not receive the call when expected. (3028)

3) I think that men misunderstand the idea of PMS’ing. For them, if a girl is upset it automatically has to do with her period, they never stop to think or ask why we are upset. I know when my boyfriend and I fight he automatically makes a remark like or, it’s that time of the month which gets me really mad. (7346)

The one thing that males misunderstand about females is that we are emotional at times not because we are “hormonal” but because we get so frustrated with their mixed signals. For example, we get mad and annoyed with them when instead of them telling us why he is so grumpy he just watches television and ignores us. I believe that women would not be as emotional if a guy just said exactly what is on his mind. If we could understand where is he coming from, we would not keep picking fights trying to figure out why he is so mad. (5362)

The one thing that males misunderstand about females is their menstruation cycle. It is common that they blame female moodiness on P.M.S. and use it as the butt of jokes. They have come to fear our “time of the month” rather than accept that it happens and dealing with it. Men are just as moody as women. (0142)

I feel like most men assume that women are one way or another (of common stereotypes) and are quick to mentally label a girl based on a very short interaction or one trait alone. Women in general look more into a person (especially men) before they fully make up their minds about the person. And i definitely agree with the person above about the "time of the month" thing. (0098)

#4. Think about a time when you found yourself particularly attracted to someone of the opposite sex. What characteristics of that person do you think attracted you? What was the most important factor that attracted you to this person, e.g., physical appearance, personality traits, self-confidence, social status, friendly gestures toward you, etc.? When I am typically attracted to someone, one the physical features that draws me in are his smile and eyes. For some odd reason I love when guys have dimples. It makes their smile so cute! Secondly, nice eyes make me swoon because when they look at me I feel like I’m the only one in the room. But the key characteristic that makes me attracted to some one is their sense of humor and a strong faith. I can not live without laughter and if a guy can joke around but know when to be serious and stand up for his beliefs it is totally hot!(8095)

When I found myself attracted to someone of the opposite sex, there were several characteristics that attracted me of that person. His personality was far beyond what had attracted me to him. He was an outgoing and funny person, yet also very serious when he had to be. He was and continues to be a caring and loving person whom is always interested in protecting and taking care of me. I would say that aside from his physical appearance, there is more. There was and is his self confidence and personality. (7754)

4. Characteristics of a man that made me attracted to them was a sense of humor, first of all, followed by knowing that they were intelligent, taller than me, and pretty good looking. The last guy that I was interested in just intrigued me more than anything and I just wanted to talk to him because I just loved to listen to his perspective on different subjects. He was just so intelligent and witty that everything he said made me happy and more interested in him, and it made me want to learn more about him and his upbringing and why he was they way he was.(0640)

My last crush was really smart and mature. His faith was very important to him, and he and I had a lot to talk about. His intelligence was what I was attracted to, as well as how kind he was and how much intuition he had. He would know how I was feeling before I said anything. He was also very tall, something that I really liked. He was not the most handsome man, but I thought he was good looking in his own way. The most important factor that attracted me to him was his first impression, from the moment I first talked to him, he had an effect on me, and I could never forget him. (9661)

The characteristics of the last person that I was really attracted to were the same characteristics of a stereotypical guy. The boy was a football player who was pretty popular and pretty good looking. He also made a lot of jokes and enjoyed playing games, including mind games. I think I was attracted to this person because he seemed to be showing a lot of interest in me and he seemed like he really wanted to get to know me more and was not only focused my appearance. (1895)

I would say that when I’ve found someone to be particularly attractive it’s from a combination of many different things. Physical appearance may be the initial reason I look closer at a person but what really grabs me and attracts me to them is their personality. I believe that self-confidence is also extremely important because unless you are attractive to yourself, you’ll never be attractive to another person (4276)

I am extremely attracted to confidence, a good sense of humor, good listening skills, and that smell good. One of the most important factors that attract me to a guy initially is his friendliness and playfulness in conversation to make me feel at ease when getting to know him. I like to feel as if I have known the guy forever after having a meaningful conversation with him. (9268)

The characteristics of a male I have found myself particularly attracted to are that he is masculine, carefree, fun, funny, spontaneous, protective and loveable. The most important factor that attracted me to this person was his smile. (3028)

4) What attracts me to the opposite sex is definitely his personality; I like guys who are extremely funny. A special characteristic along with personality is their easygoingness. If the person is really easy to talk to then it just makes everything much more smoothly. I also like someone who is confident in themselves, he does not even have to be all that great looking but if he is confident that is all I need. (7346)

A time when I found myself particularly attracted to a male I like his characteristics including his poise, confidence, and humor. He was talking to everyone around him, making jokes, laughing and seemed as if he was having a good time. The most important factor that attracted me to him was his confidence. The way he presented himself was a very good impression. He was friendly yet not in an annoying manner. I believe that physical attraction does play a role. However, I believe self-confidence is more important than looks. If someone is secure in himself than his attractiveness increases. (5362)

Personally, I find the eyes and smile the most attractive physical features of a male. I am also really attracted to men in glasses. Having a sense of humor is one of the most important characteristics of a male. I like to laugh and have fun and do not find men that are really serious all the time attractive. Religion also factors into the equation. It shows that the man is humble and may think more of others before he thinks of himself. (0142)

I am most attracted to guys that have a strong social presence not because they can only entertain, but because they have a self confidence that comes from experience in life. For example, my boyfriend and i started dating because we realized hoe much we had in common in activities we liked that most people dont explore, such as shooting, krav maga fighting, skydiving, and bungee jumping. I feel like people that go out and try new things and see more of the world are much more interesting that most guys that are only the life of the party because they are funny when intoxicated. Also, a great sense of humor that is genuine and unexpected is something i find very attractive. (0098)

#5. In your opinion, what are the strengths and weaknesses of the opposite sex? A strength that I admire about guys is that they are so laid back. They tend to go with the flow of things more often and see where it takes them. They also don’t get caught up in the drama that girls tend to build around them. Thirdly, guys have a lot less prepping to do when they get ready for their day. They don’t have as much to maintain and can be ready for their day in half the time that it takes a girl to get ready. The fact that guys are normally not as sensitive to showing their feelings is a weakness. This tough exterior in part could be due to the macho ‘men don’t cry’ stereotype that society perpetuates but none the less guys tend to hold in their feelings instead of talking about it.(8095)

I my opinion, there are more weaknesses and strengths of the opposite sex. Some strengths that the opposite sex carry are those that allow them to be outgoing, open up freely and be adventurous. The weaknesses I see are those such as the inability of expression, sensitivity and the need of not being wrong.(7754)

5. The strengths of men would be having an innate ability to protect and provide for themselves and their family. They are very strong and always put out an image that they are strong even if everything in their life is going down the deep end. Most men are very motivated and will do anything life to succeed and try to get where they believe they should be. Weaknesses of men would be being too strong and not letting anyone see their emotions and just bottling them up inside. Sometimes men believe they are always right and do not consider anyone else’s opinion, they can be very stubborn, in general. (0640)

The strengths of the male sex include that this is a man’s world and men will have many more opportunities than women will get, as of now. Men are not influenced by sexism, and men have the reputation of being the provider as opposed to women who have the reputation of being the domestic homemaker. The weaknesses of men are that they have this macho image that they do not want to break. Men have to be the toughest, strongest, and the best at everything. When they are not the best, then they get more competitive and try harder. Also, men are not sensitive; it is like just because they have to be tough, they can never sympathize for anything. (9661)

I think a major strength of the opposite sex is their ability to bounce back from defeat a lot quicker than girls and they do not ruminate or continue to recall times that made them depressed. I think that men are weaker than women in picking up the smaller signs that people give when conversing with each other like body language and what it really means. When girls are trying to avert making eye contact with them it does not mean that they should approach them. (1895)

Men always seem to have better “world knowledge” or common sense than women. Women may work harder at becoming intellectual or book smart but guys seem to have the practical knowledge and an understanding of the way the world works. A weakness that men have is that often they can be impulsive and immature, relying on their passions to guide them rather than their intellect (4276)

Some strengths of the opposite sex is their ability to make a woman feel safe and secure and to be a comfort to have around for help whenever it is needed. Men are often more willing to help with difficult jobs or things that are otherwise difficult for a woman to do. Some weaknesses are their tendencies to under-analyze things, having a huge ego that they take too seriously, sloppiness, and overly competitive nature. (9268)

In my opinion, the strengths of the male sex are that men are typically stronger than women, more fearless and more adventurous. The weaknesses of the male sex in my opinion are that men are generally not as intuitive as women. They are not usually as in tune to their feelings and the feelings of others as women are, or at least they seem less willing to pay attention to those feelings. (3028)

5) Strengths in men is their actual strength; men were made stronger and bigger in general. Some of their weaknesses is their ability to not show emotion, it is usually harder for guys to show emotions in public. However, ironically men think that showing emotions is a weakness but that is just because of the macho like nature they possess. (7346)

In my opinion, the strengths of a male are that they do not take things too seriously. They are able to let things bounce off rather than taking everything to heart. Males are easy going. I know males stress but I believe their strength is that they do not let their emotions take over. Unlike females who may start crying or start yelling when they are stressed or having a bad day, males will just stay quiet and keep to them selves. They are able to take care of themselves in the sense of fixing things, such as their bed or dresser. In my opinion, the weaknesses of a male definitely include them not being able to discuss their emotions. They tend to bottle up all their emotions inside rather than discussing what is on their mind. Another weakness is the fact that men think women are complicated. Yes, at times women may seem confusing but if a guy tried to be more open and honest, a relationship would not be as complicated. (5362) This is an issue that I have been dealing with for such a long time. It may not fit in under this category, but it makes me feel absolutely powerless every time I come across a situation. I am a very emotional person and I let my emotions get the best of me every time I date a guy. Its like they know it too because they use it to their advantage. Usually when I get into an argument with a guy that I REALLY like and he hurts me, its just my nature to cry. I’m not good at letting things go and I take everything to heart. Sometimes I just feel so pathetic and powerless (female, 1902, 11/18/08).

A strength that men possess is a sense of leadership. I feel that this has been brought on because of society and the pressure that it has placed on men to take control in the family and even the business world. They have seen from previous generations that they are to be the breadwinners, although this is changing, men still feel that they are responsibility for the well being of their family. A weakness that men have is that they are more physically violent than women, most of the time. Men are more likely to get into fights with each other or abuse women when they are upset. I feel that this may be due to their emphasis on strength. Although men may use their strength in positive ways, for example protection of others and self, they also think with their strength instead of what is the logical option. Another weakness is their lack of communication. Many do not seem to fully communicate their thoughts, concerns and reason they may be in the mood that they are in. (0142)

I think a strength in guys is that they are laid back and relaxed in general, and know what is worth getting upset and worked up over and what isn't. A weakness would be their resistance to let people in when they really do need help. (0098)

#6. Can you think of any instances in which you have personally been treated unfairly by the opposite sex? If so, give a brief description of what happened. It was shortly after I had gotten my drivers license and I wanted to learn how to drive a stick shift and a friend of my mine at the time laughed at me and said that was a waste of time because girls don’t drive stick shifts. (8095)

There have been occasions where I have felt unfairly treated by the opposite sex. There has always been the difference between the male and female figure in my household. Growing up with two older brothers was definitely not easy. Up to today, the sexism that our parents imply on us drives me to understand the behavior of my brothers and of other male figures. The opposite figure feels that certain responsibilities held within a household are for women only and not for men. I have been told that because I am a girl, I should do something. (7754)

6. At this moment in time I cannot think of a specific instance in which a member of the opposite sex has treated me unfairly. (0640)

I think guys get too macho when it comes to sports and likes to put the girls on the stands so they can "win", even at times when girls are sometimes better at them then boys. And when they say things like "She can't do that, she's a GIRL" (9661)

I remember growing up I would always want to play games on the playground with the boys and they would always tell me I couldn’t because I was a girl. Also they felt the need to pick girls last when it came to games that required all people to play. It seems that they always felt that the girls would play worse and although that was true sometimes I thought that it was not fair for girls to not be able to have a chance to prove them wrong. (1895)

I’ve been driving a few times with my guy friends and they are always making comments about how I can’t drive well because I’m a girl and I should just let them drive instead. In their opinion “driving well” seems to mean being able to go 100mph on the freeway without getting caught by the police. Guys think that anything that falls under the car category is their territory and should be left up to “real men.” (4276)

A time when I was treated unfairly by a guy was when I went to a party to meet a guy that I was dating at the time and ended up meeting a few of his guy friends. Instead of being friendly and taking the time to get to know me, they immediately brushed me off as just some high-maintenance materialistic girl who was stealing their friend from them. They already had a preconceived notion that I was a bad person and didn’t hold back letting me know that they thought that way. Eventually when they made the effort to give me a chance to really get to know me, they couldn’t believe how nice and down to earth I am that they were so sorry they treated me badly in the beginning. (9268)

In sports, men tend to assume that they are better and more capable than women. Whenever I have participated in a sports event in which both men and women are involved, the women always get pushed aside and the men take over. (3028)

6) It has actually been in my own family, my boy cousin once told me to go get him a plate of food because I was a woman. I just turned around and walked the other way; I hope he was joking, but that kind of thinking has affected most women in our society. (7346)

An instance where I have personally been treated unfairly by the opposite sex was when a group of four, three males and me, had to do a project about basketball together. They all assumed that I did not know much about it and they would not give me a chance to share my input or ideas. Finally, one day I stood up for myself explaining how I had played basketball my whole life and understood the concepts just as much as they did, if not more. The boys were surprised and let me have more say in the project, however, I still felt that they thought I was not as qualified as them when it came to basketball knowledge. (5362)

An instance where I have been treated unfairly by the opposite sex pertains to basketball. When I was in middle school, basketball try-outs were a big deal for the boys. I was talking to one of my male friends who was trying out for the team and he was excited. I told him that I was excited to try out for the girl’s team. He laughed at me and told me not to get my hopes up because I probably would not make the team and that girl’s basketball was not as exciting as the boys. Although I was treated unfairly because I was a girl, I received my vengeance when I made the team and he did not. (0142)

I hate when guys think they can come up to you at any time of the day and talk to you or make a comment by shouting from far away even just to get your attention. Not to get too worked up about it but there are so many times when i see guys just say whatever they want to girls walking by when it is completely out of line and shows such a lack of regard for the girl they are speaking to. (0098)

#7. Can you think of any instances in which you have been treated particularly well by the opposite sex, simply because of your (or their) gender? If so, give a brief description of what happened. This past summer I just turned twenty one so in celebration a big group of friends and I went to Las Vegas to celebrate. Just because I was a girl I could get into any club, even the exclusive clubs, free of charge because girls are “sexy” and draw more of a crowd. Meanwhile the guys in our group had to pay around forty dollars in order to get into the same club as us. (8095)

When it comes to going out and purchasing items, I would say that I have been treated more than well by the opposite sex. I in fact do feel that It does have to do with the knowledge that you (me) are a female and that the opposite sex is a male. The opposite sex has been kind, generous and at times more understanding then depicted. When I took my driving test I was well treated my the male instructor than the female.(7754)

7. I have been treated particularly well by the opposite sex when they want something from you, whether it be help with something, or want to borrow something, or want some kind of sexual favor. (0640)

I think guys are at most chivalrous to girls, and they do open doors and pull out chairs and pay for us. I think most guys I know do that for me when we do go out. And they won't let me carry heavy things or do anything that's too physically straining. (9661)

When I was looking for a pet at the pound I was not aware that you could not take pictures of the animals in the cage and I was going around snapping pictures with my camera at almost every dog I saw. Then one worker, who had to have known the rules, talked with me and was asking me questions about the type of dog I was looking for and was making small talk with me. I had a feeling that he was being nice to me because he found me attractive since I saw him staring at me when I first walked into the pound. It was not until I went back to the pound later that I heard a woman telling a man that people cannot take pictures of the pets. I think he let me off the hook because he felt that I was attractive. (1895)

One time me and my girlfriends went to Las Vegas and while we were there we would roam up and down the strip during the day. When we would be walking we would get stopped by lots of club promoters offering to let us into their clubs with VIP passes and such for free simply because we were a group of young women. (4276)

During one of my trips to Japan I met a guy on the train who noticed that I was struggling carrying my bags so he offered to help me carry them. But his kindness didn’t stop there. He knew that I was traveling alone so he offered to ride with me to my stop so that he could help me carry my bags to my hotel room and made sure I got there safely since it was the middle of the night. He also offered me some advice on the places I should avoid at night because I might be vulnerable when they notice I am a woman by myself. (9268)

There have been many times when I have been treated particularly well by men simply because I am a woman. For example, last Tuesday night I went to Custom Hotel, and even though there was a line of people wrapped around the building waiting to get in, the moment my group of girl friends and I walked toward the line, the bouncers said they would be inviting 10 girls in ahead of the line. My friends and I got to enter the bar before the line of people who had already been waiting for quite some time to get in, simply because of our gender. (3028)

7) I was traveling to Mexico with my family. There was a lot of traveling involved so there were many cases in which we had to travel in bus. In one occasion I had to take my luggage out of the bus and a guy helped me out since he was stronger. He probably saw me struggling and fell obligated to help me out since he was just standing around. Yet he probably would not have done it for a guy. (7346)

An instance when I have personally been treated particularly well by a male was when I was moving into my apartment. My next door neighbor was a male in his late twenties and he ended up helping me move all my heavy furniture into the apartment. Furthermore, he even helped set up some of my things in my bedroom. I thought this was so kind of him because he took time out of his day, not because he was trying to hit on me, but rather he could see that I was struggling with moving in and gave me a helping hand. (5362)

When I am with my boyfriend and his friends, they all treat me with a lot of respect and look out for me. They do not only look out for me, but for my sisters as well because they see that I make their friend happy and they are grateful for that. They do not want to hurt me in any way and jeopardize my relationship with my boyfriend or lose my boyfriend’s respect. (0142)

I went to vegas for my birthday recently with a group of friends, and we were invited to every party/club/event for free and given VIP passes (which is not uncommon) and the guys were told they couldn't come in, had to pay, had to wait in line, etc. And this has more to do with the business side of making money for the clubs there, but the difference there is still surprising. (0098)

#8. Describe an instance, or instances, when you have been rejected by someone of the opposite sex to whom you were attracted. How did they reject you? Was their behavior inconsiderate, rude or insensitive? How did it make you feel? How might they have done it in a more considerate way? There was a guy that I had gotten to know through a church youth group in high school. I was really attracted to him and he was seemed to like me too. At this time I was a freshman in high school and he was a junior in high school. We talked a lot but he had just assumed I was older than I actually was. When he realized that I was only a freshman, the age difference really seemed to bother him. I still tried to pursue something more than friends but he ended up telling me that he really liked me but the age difference at this time was not right and that he needed to focus on his new found relationship with God. He never said it in a hurtful way and he was very considerate of my feelings, which only made me want him even more! Anyway, we continued to be friends and everything worked out for the best. (8095)

There was an instance where I felt rejected by a person whom I was attracted to. The rejection was not harmful since both of us were cool friends. This was more of a personal attraction then physical. He simply said that he couldn’t see me as something more than a friend because we were already the best of friends. His behavior was of course very considerate.

8. I have not been straight up rejected by someone of the opposite sex because I don’t think I have really put myself out there enough for that to happen. But, I have hung out with someone and we have both realized that it is just not meant to be and have decided to just be friends but that doesn’t really involve rejection. But then there are always people that you are maybe, kind of talking to and you think everything is going well and then you go out and see them with another girl and although they did not reject actually reject you, it definitely feels like it. I think it is a little inconsiderate but if there isn’t a label on your relationship then you cannot really be too mad about it but it makes you realize what type of person this guy is and maybe you shouldn’t be talking to him. (0640)

After going out with someone of the opposite sex for a while, something will be done to influence this person. The best way to approach a situation which will and or could lead to a physical intimacy would be to get close to that person. After the kissing, the rest will come to play. The intention is to let the opposite sex know that you are interested. (7754)

I do not pursue people, I have yet to have a boyfriend, and the last time I was rejected was in sixth grade. I wrote my feelings out in a letter and gave it to this guy that I liked. He did not do anything really upsetting to reject me, but he didn’t do anything after, which made me feel totally rejected. I do not think it was rude, and I understood that maybe he just didn’t like me back. I was sad, but my own pride convinced me that it was his loss, and not my loss. (9661)

In Junior High School I was really attracted to this guy who was a year older than me and I felt that he liked me because we would always make eye contact when we passed each other in the halls, so I asked him to Sadie’s. When I sent him an invitation to the dance he said hell no and then I heard that he changed his mind and was waiting for me there, but I figured he did not want to go so I did not go. I felt that it was very insensitive for him to say hell no instead of just saying that he was not interested. It made me feel like I was unattractive and confused because I thought that he liked me. (1895)

One time I was really attracted to a guy friend of mine. We were actually really close and would flirt all the time. When I pursued my interest in him he straight out told me that he wasn’t interested in me and never had been. I think that it could have been handled better and he could have phrased it better even if he had to say something cliché like “our friendship is really important to me.” Looking back on the way he handled it I was happy when a few years later I got the chance to turn him down. Luckily I did it with more finesse and understanding for his feelings than he had had for mine, and we are still friends to this day. (4276)

One time I was at a bar with some girlfriends and saw this guy come in with a bunch of other guys and was really attracted to him. After constantly making eye contact with each other I finally decided to walk over to him, introduce myself, and invite him to join me and my friends. Although he was polite, he said that he would prefer hanging out with his guy friends and didn’t want to be the only guy at our table. I tried convincing him that it wouldn’t be awkward but he kept politely declining and so being embarrassed at the rejection, I said I understood and walked away. It is never a good feeling to be rejected and at the time I was completely embarrassed and felt like a loser. Later, I realized that it was not even a big deal at all and was thankful that he was at least polite about it and tried not to make me feel bad for telling me no. (9268)

One night after hanging out with a male acquaintance, when I was ready to go home, the guy allowed me to walk home alone in the middle of the night. This was very ungentlemanly and extremely inconsiderate. Not only could I have been harmed or mugged on my way home, but it was scary and sad having to walk home alone in the middle of the night. I felt taken advantage of and hurt. If he would have been more considerate, he would have walked me home. (3028)

8) I’ve never have put myself out there like that, so I’ve never found myself in that situation. (7346)

A time I was rejected by a male was my freshman year of high school and I had a crush on this guy named Brad. Brad made me believe that he was interested in me as well and I became more and more interested in him. However, I soon found out that behind my back he was saying that he was only talking to me to be nice and he thought I was hot so he would hook up with me but never date me. I felt hurt because I did not understand why he would waste so much of his time on me just so he could hook up with me. I know, especially during that age, there is no way to be more considerate about the situation. Brad was not going to come out and say that he was only attracted to me but didn’t want a relationship with me. In a utopia setting however, I would have respected him for coming out and telling me the truth. (5362)

I was dating a guy long distance my junior year of high school. The relationship started off strong, but he started not to call me as often and I felt that I was the one doing most of the work to keep the relationship going. One night we were instant messaging and he broke up with me. The thing that made it worst was that the Internet kept cutting out on both sides, so we would start to talk about it and then we would have to start all over again. It was very inconsiderate to break up with me over AIM. I felt that he did not even care about me or he would have called to talk it out. We had been dating about 7 months, which is a long enough time for someone to at the least deserve a phone call. (0142)

I was dating someone who was a few years older than i was, and we did everything most couples do, went out for dinner, we'd get together to see each other at lunch, call each other if we were bored in traffic, he even dragged me to meet his mother 150 miles away. We were together for about six months and got along pretty well, but during the entire time he would refuse to say that we were "dating," to anyone. I was just surprised that all of his friends knew we were together and he wanted me to meet his family whenever they were close, but he'd never give our relationship a title and i never really understood his reasoning behind it. (0098)

#9. Situation 1: The date has been going well, and you feel very physically attracted by this person. How would you influence this person to become physically intimate, and to go as far sexually as you wanted to go? If I felt comfortable with the person and wanted a physical interaction such as holding hands or kissing I would probably just have to go for it. If I wanted to hold his hand maybe I would initially link arms with him and then eventually slide my hand down to meet his or in the kissing instance I think I would just move closer to him face to face to hint that I wanted to kiss him. Maybe if we were alone I might even just say that I would really like to kiss you and ask if that would be ok.(8095)

No matter how much I wanted to go further sexually, I would wait for my date to come onto me. I don’t think I am confident in myself to be physically intimate first. Also, not matter how much I liked this person, I would never take it to a sexual level because of my Catholic upbringing, and I would want my date to understand and respect that. (9661)

I would stare at the person’s eyes and I would try to make gestures like poking them on the stomach if they make funny jokes or brush my hand against theirs if we were walking close to each other. I would hope that by doing this it would get the guy to realize that I wanted to take it further and be more intimate with them. If this did not make them become more intimate I would probably figure that they were not that attracted to me because they had not made a move and I would most likely move and not go out on any more dates with them. I think I would do this because I am a more traditional person and I believe guys should make the first move. (1895)

9. If you have gone out with this person several times then obviously they are interested in you or else they would not have stuck around after the first date. So, after a few dates and probably a few suggestive text messages the next step would just come naturally. I mean, if you were on a date then you could graze their leg under the table, give him the eyes like you want him to make a move, and maybe after dinner you could walk and get some coffee. I would just walk close to him and maybe hold onto his arm and he would just know especially if you are egging him on to kiss you or whatever. After that initial interaction, you could probably take it as far as you wanted to go until either person felt the need to hold up. (0640)

Basically I would probably be very touchy-feely all night, giving myself every excuse to touch their legs or arms. I would probably learn in really closely to talk to them to make it seem more intimate. Then I would try and bring up sex into the conversation to somewhat introduce the idea of physical intimacy, maybe ask/tell about previous experiences. I would make sure I was showing as much skin as possible, probably wear a skirt and a low-cut tank top or a dress. However, I would have to feel that the interest in moving forward was mutual to do anything like this. It wouldn’t be worth it to make a fool of yourself to be rejected. (4276)

First I would be flirtatious and show him that I was physically attracted to him without being too blunt about it. Then I would make small gestures to try and get him thinking on the same page as me such as brushing my leg up against his, move closer to him, give seductive looks by staring into his eyes, licking my lips, flipping my hair, and finally I would try to sensually touch his face, arm, leg or get my mouth close to his. (9268)

I have never been one to make the first move, but at best I would become more flirtatious and try to show him that I was interested. Typically, though, I always wait for the guy to make the first move. (3028)

9) In order to influence this person to become physically intimate with me I would have to be very expressive by body language. I would touch his hand, if we were sitting down I would nudge him with my leg, put my head on his shoulder, lean in, touch his leg or arm perhaps caress his hair, anything that gives him the idea that I want to be more than just friends who go on dates. Another way is actually giving him verbal hints, and just all around flirt with the guy. (7346)

The way I would try to influence this person to become physically intimate would be to give him some signs to show that I am interested as well. I would smile and maybe make some comments here and there that would be flirtatious. I would not want to be overly flirty however because I would not want to come off easy. I would maybe touch his hand during dinner or maybe give him a little bump while we were walking so there would be some physical contact and to see if that would lead to anything. In the end I would want to see what his actions would be. (5362)

If I wanted to become physical with someone, I would make the first move, such as holding hands. Lately women have become more aggressive in this area and men seem to like it. By breaking the ice it will allow for an easier way to talk about the intimacy issue or even showing the male that you are ready to take the relationship to the next level. It may put you both more at ease. (0142)

Usually i hold out with kissing and affection for a few dates just to see how the person reacts and if they can practice self control; if i knew i really liked the person and we were comfortable together i would probably just get closer in general and not avoid holding hands, and see how they handle themselves initiating things. I think it says a lot about a person who shows concern for their partner when they're intimate . (0098)

#10. Situation 2: The date has been going well, but you do not feel particularly physically attracted by this person. However, you can tell that this person is really turned on by you. Still, you know you're not interested in physical intimacy, and/or the subsequent involvement or commitment that might follow. How would you influence this person to avoid becoming sexual? I would first try to send physical signals, such as body language, that I wasn’t interested in any kind of intimacy with him but if he didn’t catch on to the clues and was persistent I would get this person alone and start out by saying how much fun that we have together and how I really value the connection that we have. Then I would have to say unfortunately the connection doesn’t seem to be anything more than just friends. I would say that I hope he wasn’t to hurt and that as cheesy as it sounds I would really like to hang out with him again but as friends. (8095)

The best way to avoid that the opposite sex doesn’t try to become physically intimate is to let that person know how you feel and or are feeling. It would be wrong to make the person believe that you are interested, but that you do not want to have anything physical with that person. (7754)

10. If you were on a date and you obviously were not attracted to the other person you could just act disinteresting in everything that they were saying or just have a complete difference on opinion as to make them realize that you do not have anything in common with them. If they still do not get it that you do not like them you could become fidgety and say that you need to go. I guess if they just are completely into you and are oblivious to all the signals you are sending them that you are not interesting you just have to let them know that you don’t really feel anything between the two of you and hopefully you could just remain friends. (0640)

If I were really un-attracted to this person, than I would not go on another date with him. No matter how turned on he is by me, if the feeling is not mutual, then I cannot get closer to him. If it ever became too close than I would change the subject so that my date to get the hint that I am not into him in that way. (9661)

If I was on a date with a guy that I was not attracted to I would probably avoid eye contact with them and try to draw their attention to other people around us in the hopes of diverting their attention from me. I would also try to not lead the guy on by saying that I was not looking for a relationship at the time but instead I was just wanting to have fun and make more guy friends. If that did not work I would probably fake having a phone call and make up a fake emergency that would force me to end the date and avoid any further contact with them. (1895)

I would wear something completely nonsexual, like jeans, sweatshirt and tennis shoes. Then the whole night I would keep mentioning how great it is to be friends, bringing up the word “friend” a lot to emphasize it. I would sit as far away as possible and avoid any physical contact besides a quick completely nonsexual hug at the end, maybe with like a back slap or something to emphasize its platonic intent. I might pretend that I have some really important paper or something to do so that I wouldn’t be out late. (4276)

I would turn my body away from his making sure not to make any gestures with my body that would give him the impression that I was physically attracted to him or interested in doing anything physical. I would also divert any comments that he makes hinting to sexual activity by making it clear I was not following along or on the same page. By ignoring the hints/gestures he is making or by subtly commenting that I am not interested in more than being friends. (9268)

I would leave before he had a chance to try to make a move. I would thank him politely and go home. (3028)

10) So that the guy knows that I am not interested I would keep the conversation at a friend level. As for body language, I would probably not sit too close to him, avoid any physical contact and if I have to tell him about another crush I will; that would give him a good idea that I am not interested. I hate to do this to a guy but if the line must be said I will: “I love you like a brother,” “I wish I had an older brother like you,” or anything along those lines. However, I would just use it in extreme cases. (7346)

I would influence this person to avoid becoming sexual by having conversations about a friendship. I would even maybe discuss that I do not want a relationship or how I like being single and independent. I would not make too much eye contact and not make any flirtatious comments that could be taken the wrong way. Furthermore, if it seemed that he was not getting the hint, since I am a very honest person, I would tell him that I liked his company and would love to be friends but just could not see us getting intimate or starting a relationship. (5362)

If I wanted to show a man that I was not interested in him sexually, I would keep my hands in my pockets and when I talked with him I would keep it on friendly terms. The less flirtatious you are, the easier it is to tell him that you never showed any signs that you were ever interested in him more than a friend. I would even offer to pay for the meal or any expense just to show him that you are not thinking of the evening as a date, but more as a night out with a friend. (0142)

I usually lower my tone and talk to them realistically as a friend to establish that kind of realtionship instead, keep the topic away from romantic things or compatibility issues, and keep more distance physically in the same way i would with my other guy friends. (0098)


For each of the following sentence fragments, complete the sentence, and, if you wish, add a few more sentences to complete your thought. Do not include the sentence stem in your response--only your answer to it.

  1. 11. In general, it seems that the opposite sex has a tendency to become "insanely" jealous when..

... you are good friends with someone of the opposite sex. (8095) In general it seems that the opposite sex has a tendency to become “ insanely “ jealous when someone of their same sex can perform better then them.(7754) In general, it seems that the opposite sex has a tendency to become “insanely” jealous when I flirt with or even look at someone else who is better looking or stronger, someone who is better off than he is.(9661) any woman mentions a guy in her past that she ever came in contact with. (1895) You continuously mention or hang out with one guy in particular (4276) Another guy looks at his girl when they are walking by or sitting down somewhere. (9268) they like a girl and see other men flirting with her or her flirting with or even talking to another guy. (3028) …whenever their significant other is talking or seems interested in another woman even though it is probably nothing. In addition, men and women seem to become insanely jealous when their significant other is texting someone else behind their back.(0640) 11)…one has a good time with people of the opposite sex. If I go out with my guy friend and I am having a really good time, my boyfriend would definitely get jealous. (7346) …it comes to ex-boyfriends or past sexual partners. Guys like to feel like they are the only ones that their girlfriend has ever truly cared about and the only one she has been with sexually.(5362) a girl flirts with another guys in front of him. (0142) I dont think someone should be in a relationship if they are uncomfortable enough to be become "insanely jealous." Dont mean that in a mean way, i just think maturity allows for adequate trust in a relationship. (0098)

#12. When it comes to initiating sexuality for the first time, the opposite sex...

…are more forward than women. (8095) When it comes to initiating sexuality for the first time, the opposite knows best. (7754) When it comes to initiating sexuality for the first time, the opposite sex is too aggressive, sex is something sacred and important, and he should respect that and not try to come on too hard or fast. (9661) tends to make too strong of a move instead of a more subtle one. (1895) Is usually the first to make a move, but only if you’re sending off the right signals (4276) Can often be very direct and aggressive. (9268) is typically the initiator. (3028) 12. …should make the first move. But if they were taking too long, then I would just go for it and make fun of them later.(0640) 12)…tries to give you hints, you just have to learn how to read them. (7346) …(males) are the ones who initiate the first move. For me, I can flirt and give them some signs that I am interested but I would never be able to make the first step.(5362) is usually more aggressive. Society has influenced them to think that they should be the one to initiate contact. (0142) ...should test the waters and see if it is wanted! If yes then go for it, and make sure you dont disappoint the first go around. And be passionate, and attentive, no girl is going to be impressed if they are too focused on themselves or just getting someone off. It shouldn’t be a means to an end. (0098)

#13. The opposite sex seems clueless about... …the female anatomy. When it is “that time of the month” guys would rather act like it doesn’t exist or have no sympathy at all for the pains we go through. They think we should just suck it up and deal with it. (8095) The opposite sex seems clueless about emotional feelings. (7754) The opposite sex seems clueless about the mistakes they made and how it made me feel. It’s frustrating when I get upset by something he did and he doesn’t even know that it upset me. (9661) what women really want. (1895) Female emotions, they don’t understand why we get upset about “pointless” things (4276) The way women think. They often cannot see our perspective on things or put themselves in our shoes. (9268) what women want from them. (3028) 13. …the way women communicate and just the way that they think in general. (0640) 13)…the reasons why we get upset. There are some things that men do not understand as to why we get mad over certain issues; in our mind they are very obvious but I guess men do not register them. (7346) …the way girls like to handle things. Women like to talk things out and it seems males dread having a talk, whether it be about why the woman is sad or about the relationship. The only women express themselves the best is when a guy is listening and responding.(5362) when a girl is annoyed. It seems that they only respond to when a women is extremely anger, as if they want to ignore the woman’s annoyance, thinking that if they don’t make a big deal out of it, the woman will forget and move on. (0142) ...what girls really like in bed, focus guys, we're different and if you pay attention you'll figure it out. (0098)

#14. Being romantic is something that the opposite sex... … can do very well when they want too. Most the time they don’t want to put in the extra effort and are just lazy. (8095) Being romantic is something that the opposite sex doesn’t know about. (7754) Being romantic is something that the opposite sex rarely does, but when it happens its amazing. (9661) has difficulty in doing and when they try to be romantic they can go over board. (1895) Often can use a little help on (4276) Either cherishes or doesn’t at all. Men can be hopelessly romantic or heartless bastards depending on the type of person he may be. (9268) is capable of doing, but does not do often. (3028) 14. …expects no matter what the circumstance, a woman loves being swept off her feet. (0640) 14) …could be good at. (7346) …has potential to be romantic. I believe any male can be romantic if he wants to. I think the reason some are not is because of their egos and pride. If they get romantic and sentimental they think they are not manly anymore. (5362) has to be in a certain mood in order to engage in it. I think that men and women have different ideas of what bring romantic entails. For men it is purely physical, most of the time, but women not only feel the physical connection, they respond emotionally as well. (0142) ...can sometimes be really good at if they pay attention to the person they are with, and try to understand what they enjoy in general. I love when guys realize the little things that i appreciate instead of going for the default choices that "most girls" want. (0098)

#15. Sometimes it seems that the opposite sex puts their boyfriend/girlfriend through a series of relationship "tests" by... Sometimes it seems that the opposite sex puts their girlfriends through a series of relationships “ test” by questioning and or pretending that they are jealous(7754) ... pushing the boundaries to see what they can get away with. (8095) Sometimes it seems that the opposite sex puts their girlfriend through a series of relationship “tests” by seeing how much joking that I can take, or how long I can take their neglect before I cry. (9661) asking them questions about their past and where they stand in comparison to a girl’s ex boyfriends or crushes. (1895) Going out for “boys nights” all the time or waiting for days to call back or talking to other girls to see if it makes you jealous (4276) Carefully watching the way that he/she reacts to certain situations that the boyfriend/girlfriend thinks is important to determine if they acted in the way desired. (9268) seeing how much they can get away with, while still maintaining the relationship. (3028) 15. …doing things just to see how their significant other will react and if they react in the way that they want them to.(0640) 15) …demanding too much from their partner in the beginning of the relationship. It’s sort of a test as to how much their partner will put into the relationship. It is a very lame way of testing your partner. (7346) …going through their phone or emails, seeing if they will initiate making a move such as making the move to kiss the second time, seeing if she is talking to another guy. The guy wants to make sure that he is the only one that the girl is interested in. (5362) making sure that they get along with their friends and that the girlfriend is willing to participate in hobbies and activities that they like. For example, when going on a date, instead of going to dinner and talking, they may ask the girlfriend to play paintball or miniature golfing. (0142) ... proposing to do things that are a little out of the ordinary to see how they react in those situations.. for example super bowl parties, skydiving... (0098)

#16. The opposite sex seems to support equality for the sexes except when it comes to... …sports. I know a lot of guys who think that girl sports like softball isn’t even a “real sport.” (8095) The opposite sex seems to support equality for the sexes except when I comes to making decisions. They want to be the ones to decide and to of course be right.(7754) The opposite sex seems to support equality for the sexes except when it comes to cooking, cleaning, and taking care of children. (9661) women having to have all the pain of giving birth. (1895) Household chores (4276) How many sex partners a woman versus a man may have and also whether or not it is acceptable to cheat. (9268) tasks or activities that are typically deemed “masculine,” i.e. football. (3028) 16. …sports or running our country. (0640) 16) …their girlfriend/wife makes a lot more money than them. (7346) …sexual partners. Guys have this notion that if a girl has slept around then he will be turned off. However, if the guy has been with many partners he does not think that that is a problem. (5362) . household chores. In general, men hate to clean, wash dishes, vacuum, ect. The image of the homemaker wife is still present in our society today even though it is acceptable for women to be powerful in the workplace. (0142) ... hahaha nothing at all. Society seems to be for all women being made equal to all men. Gender aside, some people in general are more fit than others in certain arenas, and a relationship should adapt to having the person most qualified for a task or job, actually doing it. But yes i agree in general men see themselves more suited for athletics, being the breadwinner of the family, and making financial decisions. (0098)

#17. Possessiveness is something that the opposite sex... …has qualities of. Not all guys are possessive about the same thing but some guys are possessive about their cars, their girlfriends, or other material things in general. (8095) Possessiveness is something that the opposite sex needs to step away from. (7754) Possessiveness is something that the opposite sex obsesses over, just because you happened to have it first, does not mean that the whole world got the idea of it from you.(9661) tends to overdo and feel that they have the right to do. (1895) Needs to deal with a little better. (4276) Can often not control when it comes to a relationship where he may feel insecure or often jealous (9268) has a tendency to engage in more than women. (3028) 17. …or both sexes contain, once you have someone of course you are possessive of him/her, different genders don’t really matter when it comes to possessiveness. (0640) 17)…tends to do a lot especially when they really like/love their partner. (7346) …(males) are just as bad about as women. Males get super jealous and can be very possessive over their girlfriend or even a good friend of the opposite sex. (5362) has to be judged individually on. There are certain men that are not possessive over their friend/girlfriend/wife and this may be due to trust or other issues. Yet, there are some men that want to keep tabs on their friend/girlfriend/wife at all times in order to show others that they are in control. (0142) ...shows when they are insecure about something or feel a need to protect it. It can go either way in being a positive or negative thing, based on why and what they are being possessive of. (0098)

#18. When it comes to physical attractiveness, the opposite sex... …notices that first before they notice the kind of personality a girl has.(8095) The sense that they have a girlfriend does not mean that the girlfriend belongs to them. (7754) When it comes to physical attractiveness, the opposite sex may not be up to par, you can very handsome, but you may not be ATTRACTIVE to me. (9661) plays too much of a role in them determining who they want to be with. (1895) Tend to be very shallow-minded (4276) Looks best when they exude confidence and put an effort into their appearance. (9268) seems to focus more on looks when it comes to finding a mate than women do. (3028) 18. …usually does not realize when they are looking really good or really bad. (0640) 18)…always tends to pay attention to the looks. (7346) …can be very sexy if they are self-confident.(5362) contains many different and unique features from each other. Each woman is attracted to certain aspects of the male anatomy. For some it may be the smile, the eyes, the body, ect.(0142) ... is stuck with what they were born with, much more so than girls. In my opinion more of any person's appeal is in their personality and goals, but just from a physical point of view, i think its interesting how men strive to gain muscle to seem bigger and compete with each other, while girls focus on trying to be smaller. (0098)

#19. Money and status is are things that the opposite sex... ...value. I feel like they think money and status is what makes life complete. Guys strive to have the perfect car, job, house, and wife.(8095) When it comes to physical attractiveness, the opposite sex worries a lot about (7754) Money and status are things that the opposite sex should care more about, and so they should take things more seriously. (9661) focuses on when they have it and completely pay no attention to it when they do not. (1895) Use to boost their self-esteem and self-importance (4276) Think are important to women and are a necessary component of a good relationship. (9268) feels they need to achieve in order to find themselves a wife and be able to support a family. (3028) 19. …are always striving for no matter what it takes. (0640) 19) …should not care about. (7346) …may think it is important but does not attract me to them. I think money and status does not make the character of someone. If a guy flaunts his money he just looks foolish and it is not sexy. However, if he is wealthy but is not cocky about it then that is a different story. (5362) strive for when entering the work force. Men pride themselves on how well they are doing compared to other men. (0142) ...think so much more about than women. And it is not the most important thing in life, but the burden rests more on men in relationships than women so its a justifiable concern. (0098)

#20. It hurts me most when the opposite sex... ….says they will do something and then doesn’t.(8095) It hurts me most when the opposite sex behaves sexes. (7754) It hurts me most when the opposite sex doesn’t put as much dedication into the relationship as I do. Remember my birthday, I always remember yours. (9661) does not take time to notice the small things that women do to get their attention. (1895) Completely shuts me out emotionally. How can you fight back when they won’t even respond to anything? (4276) Does not put as much effort into the relationship as I do. (9268) is inconsiderate about women’s feelings, or when they make women feel self conscious. (3028) ...doesnt notice things that women work really hard for, and how some feel they have an advantage over you, or try to intimidate you to establish dominance just because they're men.(0098)

20) …think they are better just because they are men. (7346) …lies to try to hook up. I don’t know why males will waste their time and energy just to get in bed with a girl. If you do not like her go for someone you do like.(5362) engages in violent activity. In general, men are stronger than women and when they are violent against women or children because they are bigger, it makes me lose respect for them. (0142) 20. …does not take your feelings into consideration and makes you feel belittled because of the way you think. (0640) #21. I feel best about the opposite sex when... …they do something gentlemen-like by opening a door for you.(8095) I feel best about the opposite sex when sophisticated discussions take place. (7754) I feel best about the opposite sex when they surprise me in a good way! (9661) they appreciate women and turn a woman’s imperfections into their most favorite things about them. (1895) They go out of their way to put a smile on my face (4276) I feel like he is being genuine and caring towards me whether we are in a relationship or not. (9268) they are attracted to me and treat me well. (3028) 21. …they just accept you for who you are and like you for your mind and not just your physical attributes. (0640) 21) …they are sweet, friendly, and nice. (7346) 21)…they try to understand what I am trying to explain to them. They will listen and actually respond and tell me what they think. (5362) they say exactly the right thing at the right moment. (0142) ... they are polite and genuine, and really enjoy spending time with you. (0098)